Families We Choose : Lesbians, Gays, Kinship

Preface to the Paperback Edition xi(10) Acknowledgments xxi 1. THE MONKEY CAGE AND THE RED DESOTO 1(20) 2. EXILES FROM KINSHIP 21(22) Is Straight to Gay as Family Is to No Family? 22(7) Deck the Halls 29(4) Kinship and Procreation 33(5) From Biology to Choice 38(5) 3. COMING OUT TO "BLOOD" RELATIVES 43(34) Disclosing Sexual Identity 44(8) Categorical Understandings (Or, It's All Relative) 52(4) Family--Which Family? 56(5) Conditional Love 61(3) Discursive Locations 64(3) Taking Identity, Talking Kinship 67(6) Selection and Rejection 73(4) 4. KINSHIP AND COHERENCE: TEN STORIES 77(26) 5. FAMILIES WE CHOOSE 103(34) Building Gay Families 107(9) Substitute for Biological Family? 116(1) Friends and Lovers 117(5) From Friendship to Community 122(7) Deliberating Difference 129(8) 6. LOVERS THROUGH THE LOOKING GLASS 137(28) The Looking-Glass Other 138(7) Power "Differentials," Relationship "Roles" 145(5) The Urge to Merge 150(3) Narcissism, Kinship, and Class Convictions 153(6) Couples Versus Community 159(3) Reflections on Metaphor 162(3) 7. PARENTING IN THE AGE OF AIDS 165(30) The Lesbian Mother as Icon 168(7) Male-Female Revisited: Insemination and AIDS 175(5) Of Death and Birth 180(5) Blood Relatives Respond 185(3) Parents and Persons 188(7) 8. THE POLITICS OF GAY FAMILIES 195(20) Assimilation or Transformation? 197(5) Common Ground 202(3) The Big Picture 205(5) Reengineering Biogenetics 210(5) Appendix 215(8) Notes 223(12) References 235(20) Index 255