It's Never Too Late to Be Happy! : Reparenting Yourself for Happiness

An Action Plan for Happiness 1(28) A Look Ahead 1(1) Defining the Word 2(2) Life, Liberty, and the Pursuit of Happiness 4(1) In the Beginning 5(3) Personality Perspectives 8(1) A Theory for Understanding Personality 9(4) Imagining a New Life 13(1) Complying, Rebelling, and Withdrawing Responses 14(2) The Essence of Self-Reparenting 16(1) The Importance of Teachers, Mentors, and Coaches 17(1) Praise for Being You 18(1) Motivating Oneself for Self-Reparenting 19(2) Previewing the Action Plan 21(2) Getting Started 23(1) Discovery Tools 24(5) Expanding Your Options 29(20) A Look Ahead 29(1) Longing for Something More 30(1) The Value of Dissatisfaction 31(1) The Desire for Liberty 32(2) Expanding Your Expectations for Success 34(2) More or Less at Home 36(2) Typical Parenting Styles 38(4) The Issue of Control 42(1) Discovery Tools 43(6) Recognizing the Need for Self-Reparenting 49(24) A Look Ahead 49(1) Change Is a Process 50(1) Life as a Drama 51(3) Family Loyalty 54(1) The Internalized Parents 55(2) Parental Injunctions 57(5) Escaping from Injunctions 62(1) When Cultures Act as Parents 63(2) New Power for Change 65(1) Discovery Tools 66(7) Learning to Be Happy 73(28) A Look Ahead 74(1) Creativity and Logical Thinking 74(2) Fieldwork on Parenting 76(2) The Three Ps in Parent Education 78(2) Teachers as Parents 80(2) A Curriculum for Parenting 82(2) Education in Feeling 84(2) Mad, Sad, Scared, or Happy? 86(4) Tough Love/Tender Love 90(1) Learning Something New 91(1) Discovery Tools 92(9) Listening to Yourself with Love 101(24) A Look Ahead 101(1) Born to Love 102(1) How Needs and Wants Are Adapted 103(3) ``Nobody Loves Me'' 106(1) The Importance of Touch 107(2) Sometimes I Feel Like a Motherless Child 109(1) Listening to Self-Talk 110(1) When There Are No Words 111(1) When Dialogue is Only Monologue 112(1) Needs and Wants Are Not the Same 113(1) Love Is Action 114(3) Listen with Love 117(1) Discovery Tools 118(7) Discovering Your Powers 125(28) A Look Ahead 126(1) Happiness by Legislation 126(1) Steps to Personal Power 127(2) The Power of Hope 129(2) The Power of Will 131(2) The Power of Purpose 133(1) The Power of Competence 134(2) The Power of Fidelity 136(1) The Power of Love 137(3) The Power of Caring 140(1) The Power of Wisdom 141(2) Positive Values with the Loss of Power 143(2) Discovery Tools 145(8) Self-Contracting for Happiness 153(24) Trusting Yourself 154(2) Problems of Inconsistency 156(1) Planning for Change 157(1) Contracting Theory 158(1) Goal Setting for Success 159(2) Designing Specific Goals 161(1) Time as a Basic Requirement 162(1) Energy and Motivation 163(1) The Need to Change Habits 164(1) The Cost of Change 165(1) The Possibility of Sabotage 166(2) Success Shows 168(1) When Others Judge 169(1) A First-Aid Kit for Emergencies 170(1) Discovery Tools 171(6) Celebrating Your Success 177(16) A Look Ahead 177(1) Life as a Movable Feast 178(1) Celebration Takes Many Forms 179(1) Losing the Energy to Celebrate 180(3) Deciding to Forgive 183(2) Laughter: The Medicine That Heals 185(1) Messages From Your New Parent, Coach, or Mentor 186(1) Discovery Tools 187(6) Selected Bibliography 193(2) Index 195(103) About the Author 298